| Making time for tears |

In the last week I've rekindled my long lost love for music. I'm the type of person who can go long periods of time without really listening to any music. Today, while driving in the car, I happened upon Hello Kelly's No Time for Tears, a song about the effects of a broken home and broken family.

Lead singer and writer Francois Goudreault of Hello Kelly writes this piece from the first person, depicting the breakdown of vows and promises while he himself has no time for tears. Expectations mount and troubles reach record highs, yet he is unable to truly mourn the situation. He's so caught up in it all as he's the product of a segmented family where both parties put forth their best effort for normalcy.

During the bridge of the song, he writes,

I can't blame you it's not your fault, you've thrown away this time.

I can't blame you it's not your fault, and everything you have is dying.

You can't blame me it's not my fault, and God knows that I've tried.

You can't blame me it's not my fault, and it's not on me to make this right.

Lately I find myself so willing to throw blame around. People in my life have caused so much hurt to those around me. The ugly nature of divorce is that there is blame and hurt, but ultimately it's simply a situation wherein all parties experience pain and all are in need of forgiveness. However, Francois so beautifully articulates that it's not on the child to make it right. Ultimately, parents have to step up and show their children that they love them.

I fully intend to be the sort of dad who loves recklessly to the point of irrational pursuit. For me, I model this off of God's unfailing and unceasing pursuit of his children. But I'm not perfect and I'll inevitably fall short. The important thing is that I never give up pursuing; love does not give up.

While Francois entitles this song No Time for Tears, I think that tears are so important for the process of mourning and moving on. I might even say forgiveness hinges on the ability to really mourn something and then let it go. Making time for tears is needed.

Cheers.

Here is a link to the full lyrics:

http://www.newreleasetuesday.com/lyricsdetail.php?lyrics_id=42039

Here is a link to the full song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkX4bG0kvh0